But one thing that is certain, is that simply ignoring the pain and hoping it will go away doesn’t lessen the grief. If you keep feelings buried, it can make it a lot harder to eventually deal with the trauma and lead to deep-rooted heartache.
Talking out loud can be a big healer. So often we are trapped with the thoughts inside our own heads, but it doesn’t need to be this way. Sometimes, it helps to tell someone your story – allowing you time and space to discuss loss and to think about how you really feel now – without any false pretences of being ‘fine’.
If the bereavement is a relative, it can often be difficult to turn to another family member for support – you can feel pressure to remain strong, to support them . If this is the case, or if you feel genuinely uncomfortable in talking about it to others, try writing your feelings down. Exploring your emotions in a journal or blog can be just as effective – and you can choose whether or not you share it with anyone.
It is important to grieve in your own way. Finding a way to understand your loss and processing how you are going to move forwards is a very personal thing. Whether that means laughing, crying, or screaming and shouting, you will find a way that helps yourself to heal. Try not to compare how you are coping with those around you – just because someone is coping differently to you doesn’t mean they are coping any better, or worse.
For some people, time can be enough to help them come to terms with their loss. There will be good days, bad days, and some days when you feel indifferent. Don’t be afraid to let people know that you’re having a bad day – whether you want to be given some time alone, or you want to take your mind away from the pain for a little while, don’t keep your feelings bottled up.
Grief is not just feeling sad – there are so many other symptoms of grief that can make life very difficult. Issues such as anxiety, insomnia and depression can arise as a result of grief. You may also experience physical symptoms of grief – loss of appetite, weight loss or weight gain, sickness, fatigue or sleeplessness.
Hypnotherapy is a popular treatment option which can give you positive suggestions to help cope with these issues – as well as many other symptoms you might be experiencing through your grief. It can reduce feelings of guilt and blame, and help you to find ways of coping in the future.
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Schizophrenia does not mean you have a split personality or automatically become violent, a mental health charity has warned.
Rethink Mental Illness said a survey of 1,500 people showed that the condition is widely misunderstood.
Schizophrenia commonly causes hallucinations, such as hearing voices, or delusions and can make people lose interest in life.
But it should not be "a dirty word or a term of abuse", the charity said.
The organisation warned such myths are dangerous.
One in 100 people is affected by schizophrenia during their life, but 45% of those surveyed thought the illness was much more common.
Half mistakenly thought the illness was defined by a split personality and a quarter believed it definitely led to violent behaviour.
But the reality is very different, a new campaign by the charity claims.
It is not true that "someone with schizophrenia can appear perfectly normal at one moment, and change into a different person the next", the Royal College of Psychiatrists says on its website .
And although there is a higher risk of violent behaviour if you have schizophrenia, it does not necessarily make people dangerous.
Comparatively, drugs and alcohol cause far more violence.
People with schizophrenia are far more likely to be harmed by other people than other people are to be harmed by them, the psychiatrists say.
Schizophrenia can affect the way individuals think, feel and behave.
Experiencing hallucinations is common and people often hear voices, which can sound very real and be critical and abusive, although they are all in the mind.Image copyright MRC Image caption Brain scans have discovered higher activity levels in part of the brain's immune system in schizophrenia patients than in healthy volunteers
Delusions can occur too, which means believing something completely and feeling like no-one else sees the world in the same way.
Other symptoms can include depression, loss of concentration and feeling uncomfortable around other people. Some people also have painful feelings in their body.
The Rethink Schizophrenia campaign said the illness can affect other aspects of life too - for example people with schizophrenia die 15 to 20 years earlier than the rest of the population on average.
And only 8% of those with the illness who want to work are currently employed.
The charity said this is because physical health problems are often missed or attributed to mental illness, and the side-effects of medication can cause complications.
Brian Dow, director of external affairs at Rethink Mental Illness, said: "It's about time we all got to grips with what schizophrenia is and what it isn't.
"Schizophrenia can be treated and managed, just like many other illnesses. It's not a dirty word or, worse, a term of abuse."
He added that myths stopped people from getting jobs, forming relationships and getting access to the healthcare they needed.
"The symptoms of schizophrenia don't fit neatly into a box, everyone will experience it differently," he said.
"However, we can all play a role in rethinking schizophrenia, and helping to change attitudes, by learning to separate the myths from the facts."
Prof Wendy Burn, president of the Royal College of Psychiatrists, said it was "astounding" that schizophrenia was still so widely misunderstood.
"To tackle the stigma that so many living with schizophrenia face, we have a huge task ahead of us in informing and educating the public," she said.
"We also need to ensure that more medical students choose psychiatry so that those living with schizophrenia have specialist doctors available to treat them."